Even when it is the right thing and things are going as well as can be expected, it is still hard. Many, many {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you.

Love and belief,
Tami

Hearing the pain you are going through breaks my heart. Its just never easy for anyone involved, when relationships dissolve. Praying for God’s grace and peace to carry you and your young ones. Thank you for sharing.

I’ve been busy for awhile and haven’t stopped in. This is my first visit back, and I am so sorry for you and your family. It will be a tough year for the kids, as you said. I will keep you in my prayers.

Blessings to you and your family.

Thanks so much for sharing that. When you mentioned in a previous post that you were going through a difficult time, this is the first thing that I thought of. You’re such a strong, healthy woman that I thought even the death of a parent or a serious illness of a loved one, wouldn’t quite throw you for a loop like this. But this is the most difficult experience you’ve probably ever been through and I’m sure the emotional rollercoaster is incredible.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May God hold you close and bring you peace. May he also bless you with the ability to act with compassion and kindness in this situation which can be so very hard.

Having several friends who’ve been through this, I can only stress the importance of assuring the children that your split has nothing to do with them (that they were not the cause of it), and that you both will love them as much as you do now, just living in separate homes. What a wonderful solution with your husband being so close. And it’s great that you won’t speak ill of each other. You can not go overboard with your love for your children during this time. Love them to bits! Snuggle, hug, cuddle, and cradle them like crazy. They will need it…almost as much as you will. Do something spontaneous with them like a crazy weekend away in which all daily routines are thrown overboard for two days. Show them that they are more important than anything else.

A great book that a girlfriend of mine swore by, is Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford. Maybe the library can get it for you.

In my opinion, you are being a great mom by getting divorced. You are teaching your children to change a situation if it is not working for them (they won’t get that part right away, but later on they will.) You also would not want them to be in a stagnant relationship where they are not happy. Children imitate and learn from how they live. This will teach them to want more for themselves and their relationships. And I am sure you will find someone in the future to have that wonderful relationship with. The kids will see this and know and learn that this is what they should strive for.

So the European vacation must have been a sort of last family vacation for all. What a sweet thought from you and your husband.

These cyber relationships are crazy sometimes. You feel like you know someone by reading their thoughts on various subjects and seeing a video of them. Reading this post yesterday I was stunned and even dreamed about you last night. Kinda strage half-way around the world. But you’ve impacted our life and so somehow you’re a part of all. Thanks for all you do Robyn and may God give you strength the next few months.

Kristen McNabb
Lexington, KY