Comments on: When Grandma Comes to Spoil the Kids, part 2 of 3 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/ Dedicated to helping families eat whole foods Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:36:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Amy G. http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/comment-page-1/#comment-19303 Amy G. Mon, 02 Aug 2010 13:33:19 +0000 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/?p=1460#comment-19303 I agree with some of the other commenters on this topic that the husband needs to step up to the plate and take some responsibility for standing up for his children's health and his wife's decision about what food is/is not acceptable. These are his parents, and the opening salvo should come from HIM, not her. I have had issues with my in-laws (fortunately, not food-related), but my husband fought the battle, not me. This woman's husband needs to act like a man and stand up for his family. It's not disrespecting his parents -- it's the circle of life. Our spouse and offspring come first, and our parents come second, in my opinion. Man up!! I agree with some of the other commenters on this topic that the husband needs to step up to the plate and take some responsibility for standing up for his children’s health and his wife’s decision about what food is/is not acceptable. These are his parents, and the opening salvo should come from HIM, not her. I have had issues with my in-laws (fortunately, not food-related), but my husband fought the battle, not me. This woman’s husband needs to act like a man and stand up for his family. It’s not disrespecting his parents — it’s the circle of life. Our spouse and offspring come first, and our parents come second, in my opinion. Man up!!

]]> By: Jane http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/comment-page-1/#comment-19287 Jane Sat, 31 Jul 2010 21:08:53 +0000 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/?p=1460#comment-19287 I had this battle with my parents too-we were living with them before moving after my marriage ended which made it really hard. My 4 year old daughter had continual sinus chest middle ear infections and the naturopath put her supplements and herbs and said NO dairy! I exactly the same as a child. I've now been dairy free for 5 years but was never a big milk drinker. They could not accept that dairy was wrong "but she needs her calcium" and continually gave her chocolate milk  and took both of them to Maccas for thickshakes and sundaes. If I didn't get her up from the table after dinner at home straight away they'd be getting the ice-cream out-which was normal for them and of course I was the bad mean mother when I was saying no...and then she'd wake up with bad sinus and headache sore throat...but no it was never the milk causing the problems -I was imagining it and their doctor told them I was wrong and she needed to have dairy for her teeth and bones!!! On the upside they were never big candy/lolly eaters and we were brought up with no soda/sweets and chewing gum but dairy? Hard to change years of misinformation. Anyway she's an independent 21 now and chose to go dairy free years ago...soy lattes all the way! I had this battle with my parents too-we were living with them before moving after my marriage ended which made it really hard. My 4 year old daughter had continual sinus chest middle ear infections and the naturopath put her supplements and herbs and said NO dairy! I exactly the same as a child. I’ve now been dairy free for 5 years but was never a big milk drinker. They could not accept that dairy was wrong “but she needs her calcium” and continually gave her chocolate milk  and took both of them to Maccas for thickshakes and sundaes.
If I didn’t get her up from the table after dinner at home straight away they’d be getting the ice-cream out-which was normal for them and of course I was the bad mean mother when I was saying no…and then she’d wake up with bad sinus and headache sore throat…but no it was never the milk causing the problems -I was imagining it and their doctor told them I was wrong and she needed to have dairy for her teeth and bones!!! On the upside they were never big candy/lolly eaters and we were brought up with no soda/sweets and chewing gum but dairy? Hard to change years of misinformation. Anyway she’s an independent 21 now and chose to go dairy free years ago…soy lattes all the way!

]]> By: Mom of 3 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/comment-page-1/#comment-19279 Mom of 3 Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:46:00 +0000 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/?p=1460#comment-19279 Funny..I actually thought about the allergy approach myself. It's not even a white lie because it is true. I'm lactose intollerant...conclusion: My children are too! Funny..I actually thought about the allergy approach myself. It’s not even a white lie because it is true. I’m lactose intollerant…conclusion: My children are too!

]]> By: Mom of 3 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/comment-page-1/#comment-19278 Mom of 3 Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:42:33 +0000 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/?p=1460#comment-19278 Thanks Robyn. I know you really care about helping me make a difference in the lives of my babies. Tuesday, while grocery shopping, I saw a baby bib that read, "What happens at Grandma's house stays at Grandma's house" with a picture of a cookie with bites out of it and crumbs sitting by a big glass of milk. It seems even the baby bib industry is against me and other young moms...ha ha ha........ Thanks Robyn. I know you really care about helping me make a difference in the lives of my babies. Tuesday, while grocery shopping, I saw a baby bib that read, “What happens at Grandma’s house stays at Grandma’s house” with a picture of a cookie with bites out of it and crumbs sitting by a big glass of milk. It seems even the baby bib industry is against me and other young moms…ha ha ha……..

]]> By: Lala http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/2010/07/30/when-grandma-comes-to-spoil-the-kids-part-2-of-3/comment-page-1/#comment-19272 Lala Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:25:25 +0000 http://www.greensmoothiegirl.com/blog/?p=1460#comment-19272 we struggle with this too. even my mom who tries to be healthy still wants to give my kids candy. I allow her to give them some (since it is rare and I'm okay with doingmy best in MY home and slacking a BIT when in other people's homes (save my kids can't have gluten, dairy, egg, soy because of allergies--that makes people listen easier) however swedish RED fish are all of those free and grandma has huge bags all the time (and red 40 filled)- most of the time I can use the times as learning experiences --for my kids AND for grandma--I will point out to grandma how the kids are acting or FREAKING out, etc. One night my son was up in bed LATE LATE just sitting there talking to himself after a bag of skittles from grandpa -- and at 11pm my son said, "mom--the sugar won't let me sleep" these are learning experiences. however I do put my foot down with important things--like NO pop I have snapped at grandpa when he gave the kids a sip and said that if they do not respect me then we cannot be in their house. they should respect you and your decisions as YOUR kids' mom. AND you can agree to little things here and there to let them "feel" they are "loving" the kids. Sometimes my mom may have fruit leathers for the kids' treats- becasue we have talked and agreed on this. good luck! there is a line to draw but my kids come first and I would stop visiting family if they were that outright disprespectful. (of course--I suggest talking things out and trying trying to work it out first!) we struggle with this too. even my mom who tries to be healthy still wants to give my kids candy. I allow her to give them some (since it is rare and I’m okay with doingmy best in MY home and slacking a BIT when in other people’s homes (save my kids can’t have gluten, dairy, egg, soy because of allergies–that makes people listen easier) however swedish RED fish are all of those free and grandma has huge bags all the time (and red 40 filled)- most of the time I can use the times as learning experiences –for my kids AND for grandma–I will point out to grandma how the kids are acting or FREAKING out, etc. One night my son was up in bed LATE LATE just sitting there talking to himself after a bag of skittles from grandpa — and at 11pm my son said, “mom–the sugar won’t let me sleep” these are learning experiences.

however I do put my foot down with important things–like NO pop I have snapped at grandpa when he gave the kids a sip and said that if they do not respect me then we cannot be in their house. they should respect you and your decisions as YOUR kids’ mom. AND you can agree to little things here and there to let them “feel” they are “loving” the kids. Sometimes my mom may have fruit leathers for the kids’ treats- becasue we have talked and agreed on this. good luck! there is a line to draw but my kids come first and I would stop visiting family if they were that outright disprespectful. (of course–I suggest talking things out and trying trying to work it out first!)

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